My couples counseling services can help you and your partner improve communication, resolve conflicts, and build a stronger relationship. Whether you are facing challenges related to intimacy, trust, or other issues, I can help you work through them and achieve greater satisfaction in your relationship.
I create couples retreats customized for the unique situation of your relationship. Whether you are starting a new relationship, rejuvenating and problem solving in an existing one, or are in serious trouble, I can help.
Typically retreats are scheduled over the course of 3 days mid-week. The retreat offers therapy sessions and exercises for the couple every day. Clients usually stay in the cabin (therapy retreat) on site and enjoy the beautiful scenery at the beach in Roberts Creek. However, if you are planning for a winter retreat, the cabin is not always available and a local BnB can be rented.
I am here to help you navigate through life's challenges. I offer individual counseling services that are tailored to your specific needs. Whether you're struggling with anxiety, depression, or relationship issues, I'm here to support you.
My counseling sessions are designed to help you overcome personal challenges and achieve your goals. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental environment where you can explore your thoughts and feelings, gain insights into your behaviour, and develop strategies for positive change.
Family dynamics can be complex and challenging. My family counseling services are here to help you navigate through the challenges and build stronger relationships. I work with families of all sizes and backgrounds to help them communicate better, resolve conflicts, and build stronger bonds.
The ultimate goal of IFS is to unburden or restore extreme and wounded parts and establish a trusted, healthy, harmonious internal system that is coordinated by the Self.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy was developed by Richard Schwartz and it combines systems thinking and the multiplicity of the self. IFS is non-pathologizing and locates the source of healing within the client.
IFS believes that the mind is made up of multiple parts, and underlying them is a person's core or true Self. Like members of a family, a person's inner parts can take on extreme roles or subpersonalities. Each part has its own perspective, interests, memories, and role.
A principle of IFS is that every part has a positive intent, even if its actions are counterproductive and/or cause dysfunction. There is no need to fight with, coerce, or eliminate parts; IFS promotes internal connection, harmony and transformation to bring the system back into balance.
IFS views people as whole underneath their parts. According to IFS, everyone has a true self or spiritual center, called the Self. Everyone has access to it as well as its healing qualities of: curiosity, connectedness, compassion, calmness, creativity, confidence, and courage.
IFS therapists help clients befriend and heal their parts by connecting with their true Self.
Relational somatic therapy is a body-centred process that differs slightly from traditional psychotherapy approaches. The focus here is on noticing sensations, feelings, and impulses that arise from the body- the container of our life's information. To notice what is happening, we need to slow down to listen and witness ourselves with compassion and awareness.
We can then notice habits, imprints and feedback loops that limit our potential for new possibilities and choices. Seeing our internal conditions, often created by circumstances in the past, can create welcome change in the present moment.
Somatic psychotherapy is a combination of neuroscience, Attachment Theory, and trauma resolution work. Here is some information about each of these areas.
Neuroscience: examines the functions of the brain. Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) involves understanding the implicit and explicit, as well as left and right brain processes. IPNB suggests possibilities for healing trauma by stimulating the brain with powerful and positive persuasion. Studies have shown that conditions that were once considered to be irreversible may actually be able to be transformed in a healthy way. Because the brain grows continuously throughout our lives, the implications for healing are unending. The approach appreciates the power of meditation in creating new neuronal pathways and has been lead by researchers Daniel Siegel and Allan Schore.
Attachment Theory: studies the need, and the ways, we attach to other human beings. Our attachment structure forms prenatally and during the first 3 years of life. Attachment styles are not who we are but merely the ways we have unconsciously learned to minimize hurt and disappointment in relationships. Somatic psychotherapy offers interventions for attachment repair. Attachment theory is the joint work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. More recently, Diane Poole Heller combines somatic psychotherapy and attachment theory. Sue Johnson uses attachment theory to help couples repair and maintain their love relationships.
Trauma Resolution Work: recognizes that trauma occupies our biology and that it cannot be solely resolved through talk therapy. Trauma can be described as too much, too soon, and too fast. When unresolved trauma inhabits our body, it may interfere with our ability to be present and live fully. Somatic trauma resolution works with the nervous system and survival responses in the body. Pat Ogden, Peter Levine, Bessel van der Kolk, and Sharon Stanley are some of the pioneers of somatic trauma resolution work.
I offer therapy in my home office in Roberts Creek, BC. It has a lovely ocean view and spectacular scenery. If you would like to do therapy on the deck beside the garden or on the beach, this is also a possibility.
If you are extremely busy or are mobility challenged, I am willing to come see you in your place of work, your home, or in nature -as long as the space is calm, safe, and confidential.
I also offer counselling on-line.
I will connect with you in real time in any geographic area that has a good internet connection. On-line counselling requires that you have a phone, tablet or computer that has a working camera.